Joy Jangdhari

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Letting Go

Breaking limited agreements you made with your self, with other people with life itself.  You break many limiting agreements and overcome many challenges.

Breaking agreements exercise

12:30 pm 2:30 pm -Letting Go

Letting go of the emotional charges means letting go of the power the event has over us


It is important to understand that NOT letting go also has an emotional payoff.  If you play the role of "victim",  you may get sympathy and attention in a manipulative way.  However, the benefits of this approach are far outweighed by the harmful long-term effects of holding yourself back and keeping yourself in pain. The decision of whether and when to let go is completely up to you.  Letting go of a situation does not mean that what a person did to you or what you did to someone else was ok.  It does not mean that you have to stay in an unhealthy, painful situation.   Letting go, or forgiveness, in this case, is the willingness to release the stored, toxic anger, blame, and resentment and return to your natural state of health and well-being.


Letting go does not just apply to obsessive thoughts.  Emotions are physiological storms in our brains  and by using our bodies in certain ways our voice our gestures our breathing our facial expressions  can radically change our states.  The fastest way to change your state is to hold and direct the focus of your mind.



It also applies to worry if you have done something correctly in the past, lingering resentment for perceived harm done to you, reliving a sad or traumatic event, or fear about the future. The process of letting go can only occur in the present moment when you bring awareness to a specific situation.  Whether you are talking about past, future or present events, it is in the present where the experience either has the benefits of letting go or the damage of not letting go.

Letting Go happens on the emotional level with the elimination of painful, hurtful feelings, and on the physical level, in the cells, muscles, spine, digestive system, and all other areas of the body.  


Our classic responses to frustrating and painful situations cause even more tension, so in using your classic responses you just replace one useless waste of energy with another.  So let's continue to look at why you would want to let go, to help you better understand the "how" of letting go.  Often the rethinking of personal histories over and over again is referred to as " playing tapes in your head"  In this context, letting go means releasing the emotional charge of past experiences and not reliving them over and over again.  

Our classic responses to frustrating and painful situations cause evern more tension, so in using your classic responses you just replace one usel

Why should you let go of certain thoughts or ways of thinking?

1.  Distraction- you are not where you should be, in the present.  Your mind is bouncing back and forth re-reading old scripts, rewriting new scripts trying to get the story to come out in a way that will justify, satisfy, vindicate, or even condemn.

2. Tension- there is a contradiction and friction between what you feel inside about an issue and what you consciously perceive, or there is a contradiction between what others around you express their feelings and how you perceive the same event or issue.

3. Energy-  You don't realize how the repeating cycle of these types of thoughts wears you down.  Physically, mentally, emotionally you become fatigued, and your ability to resist adding even more useless thoughts and reconsiderations continues until most of your available energy is consumed "playing tapes".  When we talk about letting go, we do not mean forgetting an event ever happened or had no impact on our lives.  There is nothing wrong with reflecting back to good memories or using lessons learned from painful situations to shape our lives in positive ways.  However, letting go of the emotional charges that come when we think about situations frees us to more clearly see the situation, including any benefits and lessons we were given.

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