Joy Jangdhari

 Author/ Speaker

Ceo of-Joy Events 

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Looking Within

"Looking within is stepping into an internal realm. You

become a witness to your own acts. Every category of self-investigation

in this course has techniques to assist in creating

internal balance. You will look at what emotions are “stuck” and

trace the feelings back to the original event where you made a

“stand” about who you were or what life was about. You will see

rationalizations, justifications or even excuses as to why you have

taken those stands.

The word “stand” seems to indicate an immovable,

unchangeable position, but by looking within, you will find your

“stands” are simply patterns of reactions and behaviors you took

on based on past situations or experiences, and therefore

completely within your power to change when the time is right for

you."   

                                                         - Living Life As A Joyful Being: be ready for whatever life brings!

Self-  How to turn our emotions into the moral resources that we need to confront challenges with hope as opposed to fear, with empathy as opposed to alienation,  the sense of self-worth as opposed to self-doubt to be able to engage challenges proactively rather than try to distance ourselves. These 3 questions about (story of the self-story /of now).  You can have a wonderful strategy but if nobody showed up, such a good strategy would not work.  Example:

 if people are scared if they are divided you don't have a strategy you have a theory the other dimension, motivation matters. Just as much if not more than the whole question is how strategy and motivation work together.  The strategy says "how" motivations about "why" we make sense of the world in different ways.  One way we map the world is cognitively we map where things are in relation to each other and in the world that's very important.  This helps us find our way from here to there, it helps us answer the questions you can do it, and what is the efficient way to do it?  Critically important it doesn't tell us why it matters just it just tells us how but not "why" so there's a second way in which we map the world and that's our effective or emotional mapping of the world  and what we experience as good, as beautiful, that lifts us up that puts us down what disgusts us frightens us, enhances us.  The second mapping that emotional mapping is actually how we value the people, objects, and experiences of the world and so the valuing that we place is through that emotional side of mapping because that's where we go to answer the question why?  We've got two pieces now the strategy is the how domain narrative deals with the domain of why and it deals with the domain of the heart.  We suggest you need both to move the hands because you are not going to move the hands at all if you don't have the motivation, but you are not going to move then skillfully if you don't have the strategy.   It takes both dimensions to actually engage.

The second key point is if we are going to deal with values and knowing that values are not intellectual abstractions they are actually how we feel about things what we actually value.  St. Agustin wrote it's one thing to know the good he said but another to love it.  Loving it is what enables action upon it.  Emotion, motivation motors it all.  That which moves us and what we value is what moves us.  When you get to that" choice" point you have to do this over that why are you choosing this over that you may go through a whole logical exercise but in the end it comes down to what do you value more, emotional information is critical information about ourselves and about the world and understanding how to operated in it. This is the whole idea, it is an understanding of emotion rather than a fear.  Understanding that we are emotional creatures we are reasoning creatures and emotions is not without its own reason it's a way of teaching and learning and growing.  We know that there are certain kinds of emotions that facilitate mindful action and others that inhibit actions.  Most of the time we are on autopilot we are operating out of habit, and it is very efficient so our brains have evolved what is called a surveillance system.  The surveillance system lets us know when something unexpected is happening.  When we see a van, bus, truck coming towards us we experienced that as anxiety,  this pulls us out of habit and puts us in a place where it can choose another course of action.  It takes a fresh thinking, it takes an emotional engagement.  This is a critical part of moving us to be ready to act, that is just one side of the equation.  What is the default response to threat?  I'm going to fight it or run away from it and freeze and hope it doesn't notice me.   fight, flight, freeze.  So culturally we developed tools to manage the fear reaction we developed emotional tools capable of managing the fear, managing isolation, and the self -doubt that we experience when we confront a  threat.  The tools of looking within will build self-sufficiency, personal power, balanced state of mind. 

Exercise:

Where are you coming from and what is running through your mind.  Looking at what thoughts are running your life.

Because our belief systems are really subconscious we are not aware of the things that were bred into us as children its time to figure out what they are. 

Creating Space:

One a sheet of paper write what you think about men and on another sheet what you think about women what I think about money etc. any subject that comes out of your thoughts, whether they sound good or not just write them down.

Just take a look at them and see how many are positive and how many are negative and if you can take those negative and bring awareness that is how your brain is functioning now you can start clearing up your belief system.   Now you can take a look at what is keeping you stuck in the mind.  You get to realize what you really do believe about these things in your life.  You can't change your thoughts if you don't know what your thoughts are.  Your mind is like a computer and there is a law of thinking.  If you have a gorgeous computer put in front of you and you don't know how to use it then it becomes useless to you.

If you learn the language of the computer  "your mind" and learn how to use it just like your body and mind controls you can live a more balanced joyful life.  What you think and what you believe will come true for you.  Take a look at how your thoughts create your life.  And when we can get that, then we can make enormous changes!


Looking at the story of your life:


Most people have negative conditioning about themselves.

I'm not good enough, I will never be enough etc.  I'm not lovable.  When we come from that space it's really hard to create that space that is healthy for us.  Learning to accept yourself the way you are this is a hard one for people because we grow up thinking we are not good enough many times.  Recognizing the being of self-worth.  You start to treat your self differently.  

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